Did you ever hear the phrase “Happy wife, happy life”? Well, I love to reframe it: “Happy mom, happy kid.”
Remember the moment when you brought your baby home? Even though you went through so much pain, stretch marks, and morning sickness, you still loved your little munchkin — because it is part of you, because it is a miracle your body created.
But this gift also comes with side effects: sleepless nights, forgetting when you last took a shower, when you drank a warm coffee, or when you sat down for a minute just in silence. That is part of growth, evolution, and wisdom coming to you.
For some reason, when you become a mom, all the wounds from your childhood open up: guilt, shame, fear — all of that comes from our childhood. And as an adult, you have a choice: to stay stuck in those feelings and blame the world around you for what happened, continuing to pass this legacy to the next generation of your family tree, or to stop it here.
Very rarely, as an adult, do you know what boundaries are. They are just like the Chinese Wall — tall and steady. If you let everyone around you crush your boundaries and enter your inner world, your children will mirror you. “Monkey see, monkey do.”
To get back to keeping your sanity, the key to it is being aware and building a healthy relationship between you and your child.
Boundaries are not Selfish - they're sanity savers.
Many moms struggle with the word “no.” We’ve been conditioned to believe that being a “good mom” means saying yes to every request — the school bake sale, the extra carpool, the late-night phone call from a friend, even when we’re already stretched thin. But the truth is, constantly saying yes to others often means saying no to yourself.
Boundaries are not walls that shut people out; they are doors that let love and energy flow in a healthy way. By setting limits, you’re protecting your time, energy, and mental space so you can show up as a calmer, more present mom.
Think of boundaries as oxygen masks on a plane: you put yours on first so you can actually help others. Without boundaries, burnout is inevitable. With them, you’re teaching your kids (and everyone around you) that respect and balance matter.
Boundaries aren’t selfish. They’re survival. And even more than that — they’re acts of love, both for yourself and for your family.
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